The End of Invisible Boundaries

What’s happened to us?

I’m not a man of extremes, but stating the extremes in terms of this topic will hopefully show us we must avoid them.

Oh, and this isn’t meant for anyone specifically. And it’s none of this “you know who you are” stuff. If any description sounds a lot like you, this passage wasn’t meant to offend you specifically. Oh, and I’m not perfect, as is the case for anyone. I have no authority. I only say this because no one says a word about how messed up this school can be. But, for the most part, we know that some things we do are just plain stupid. It may sound obvious for some of you, but not everyone knows what the hell is going on.

This won’t affect everyone who reads the following letter if you will, but it’s out of anger that’s lasted for years.

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Dear kiddies,

These invisible boundaries that surround us as teenagers are entirely pointless. We can’t get near each other without entering a state of paranoia: What does he/she really think of me? You think I’m nuts? Put it this way: Suicides don’t happen because the victims always hate only themselves; they hate the world because they think the world hates him or her.

We’re too homophobic. Why do we have to resort to calling bisexuals d—s in the locker rooms? Or even think about whether all members of the Gay Straight Alliance are gays or lesbians? Do you really have to be that inquisitive or suspicious? People are different from you, deal with it.

Stop the macho-ness. Really, you look like a total nitwit. Who do you really think you are? Just because you think more girls like you than others or because you think you’re athletic, or you think you’re attractive doesn’t mean you go around making fun of people’s moms and dads and siblings and anything else your minds can think of. Of course this applies to everybody who’s like this. Please grow up. I feel the coldest chill up my spine when I see such people.

What are you smoking for? What are you drinking for? This made up unit known as popularity doesn’t skyrocket because you got drunk or high at three in the morning. This isn’t designed to be a stereotype. I’m just sick of people knowing how bad the substances are for you, but they still try it once. I get if you’ve had problems of some kind, or to relax, but drugs aren’t the answer. And posting the pictures of you high or completely wasted on the Internet doesn’t help either. If you try it once, you’re hooked. Anybody knows that, it’s the whole point!

We judge too much on how a person looks or the tiny things he or she does. So a guy has long hair (i.e. a fringe) or his pants are tighter than you want it. Or maybe… say it ain’t so… He or she likes Yu-Gi-Oh. Who cares? Is it so important that we start to make the most outrageous assumptions over such minuscule issues? It’s just way too much, period.

This is why I write. I don’t care if you hate me for it. I do it out of rage. And I’m not the only one that feels this way. We just don’t take the chance because we know the reaction won’t exactly be completely in our favor. Somebody will most likely look at each of the words in each and every single sentence and look for something to say against me… god, help us.

Many people have the same feelings expressed in this note, but refuse to say enough or anything. “One of the things I’ve learned is to just not get caught up with the high school standards everyone worries about,” says Bryan McComb of Lynbrook High School. “You have to focus on you. What they say or think are just ignorant comments. Take it from me, as long as you’re okay with yourself, and this goes for everyone, then what they say to you shouldn’t get to you or anybody else.”

To the victims: keep your head up, it makes you the better one. Trust me.

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Love and Relationships

You would think I’m the last guy to ask about topics these sensitive, probably because I’m not exactly a romantic kind of guy. Arranged marriages do that to you. Yet, it’s because of my lack of anything that I could offer a few tips and words of advice on how to deal with an emotion as powerful as love. Hope that makes sense.

First off, you should know what love is. It’s not the feeling you get when you see a person that’s “hot”. Love should be completely different. Cliche, yes; True, also yes. It should be much more than a “Cupid’s arrow” type of punch. Love has the power to eat you up from the inside out if you can’t control it. So when you see what could be your lover, it should be different from any feeling you’ve ever had. There’s a reason as to why the emotion seems so different: Love obviously doesn’t come with a snap. Being in love is more than just thinking your counterpart is “hot”. It’s that he or she is, quite honestly, particularly beautiful or handsome. Basically, it takes quite a long amount of time. With the situation I happen to be in, I know that if I’m going to fall in love with a girl, it really should be something special.

Romantic relationships can be  the most difficult task to deal with for any teenager. It’s about respect. As a note for guys, don’t go around treating women like toys to add to your possession. I’m not saying you necessarily do, but that’s one of the biggest mistakes teenage guys make. You feel on top of the world when you can even become friends with an attractive girl sometimes. However, guys take it too far on occasion, because what they have now is “bragging rights”: I know a hot girl or girls now. That gives me permission to rub it in your face. Other teenage men who aren’t exactly as lucky take it as an insult. Plus, it’s not as if the girl you’re playing around with approves of everything you’re doing. You really haven’t hit it big until you have a really stable relationship. Period.

For girls, don’t use guys to work for you and just leave them after they’ve fulfilled your task. It’s not as if they don’t realize what you’re doing. Again, it’s not like I’m pointing out anyone specifically. You don’t even know whether they might think you’re pretty. So when you use any guy to copy his homework, or to get him to help you with a project, or anything, think about what happens afterwords. Either you could get to know the guy and realize he’s especially nice or friendly, or you could leave him and poke a large hole in his self-confidence. Think about it.

In the end, love is both a physical and, more importantly, an emotional connection. You can’t assume when it comes to love. You need to be 100% sure. It’s OK to have a relationship and not necessarily be in love. The catch is, don’t say you’re in love just to get someone for yourself. Let time take its course. Trust me, there is somebody out there who loves you already for who you are, no matter who you may be.

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